About Dr. Chalmer

Dr. Chalmer has been helping individuals, couples, and families in private practice for over thirty years. His practice is now focused on couples (he is no longer accepting new individual clients). He brings to this work a wide-ranging curiosity and intelligence, an ability to connect with people with warmth and humor, and a deep respect for the dignity of each person.

Dr. Chalmer’s therapeutic style reflects his understanding that we heal primarily through relationship.  While his work is informed by his expertise in research methods (on the way to his Ph.D. in psychology, he obtained a Master’s degree in statistics, and wrote a textbook on the subject, published in 1986), and he incorporates research-based techniques in his work, Dr. Chalmer recognizes that the power of therapy is in human connection.  He is guided by theory, but sees you as a person, not a diagnosis.

Dr. Chalmer’s background and active participation in Jewish tradition is a central influence on his work.  He has wide experience counseling people of many faiths for whom spirituality and religion are central.

Dr. Chalmer is the author of Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back.

Dr. Chalmer is married to Judy Alexander, and they have three adult children and two adult stepchildren. Together, they produce the Couples Therapy in Seven Words podcast.

His other notable interests include musical composition, performance, and choral directing.  His work Berakhot: A Midrash Cantata was recorded by the Fyre and Lightning Consort and released on CD in 2005, and he is a member of Social Band, which has also performed his compositions and arrangements.  His work Come Inside: A Midrash on Genesis 18:1 was first performed in 2006.  Some of his Jewish liturgical music has been published by Transcontinental Music.

Dr. Chalmer’s statement of professional qualifications (as required by Vermont law) is at this link.