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Book Launch Party – You’re Invited! 3/30/20 at 8:00 PM on Facebook Live

We’re having a party to celebrate the publication of Dr. Chalmer’s new book, Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Couples Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back. And you’re invited! It’s on Monday, March 30, at 8:00 PM on Facebook Live. Here’s the event link. Join us! I’ll do some short readings, we’ll do some […]

I’ve stopped drinking. Should I go to a New Year’s party with my husband’s hard-drinking college friends?

Lexi writes: I’m 26 years old, married for two years to a wonderful man. We’ve been invited to a New Year’s Party with his old gang of college friends. Most of us are coming in from different states. I’ve come to love his friends like brothers and sisters, but they are a pretty partying bunch, […]

My fiancée uses Santa Claus to bribe her child. How can I get her to see that she’s doing it wrong?

“Conflicted” writes: I’m a 48-year-old man and my fiancée is 42. She has an 8-year-old son. I have two teenage sons who are with me about half the time. My fiancée and I have been together for two years, living together for six months, so this is our first Christmas living together. With the holidays […]

My Boyfriend is Overwhelmed with Parenting. Is this a Deal-Breaker?

Traci writes: Greetings Dr. Chalmer, This morning, as I lay in bed, dreading the day (or weekend) ahead of me, I decided to google “help with a troubled relationship” and your YouTube channel came up.  I made some coffee, grabbed a journal and pen and listened to all your videos and took some notes! Thank […]

My Husband Lost His Job and We Had to Move. How Do I Stop Being Angry?

A418 writes: My husband and I have been through stressful life changes. He lost his job after 19 years and we had to move away for him to find work.  I’m still having issues with being angry at him and he feels terrible about everything that’s happened  How do we get past this? We both […]

My Husband Wants to Try Polyamory, and I’m Conflicted!

“Poly?” writes: I am in my 40s and my husband “Bob” is in his 50s. We’ve been married 17 years and things are kind of blah in our marriage. We went to a marriage counselor and it didn’t seem to help much. We don’t seem to be connecting much and our sex life is pretty […]

I’m Pregnant and Engaged, But Now I Have Doubts About Both

Terri writes: I’m a 26 year old woman in graduate school. I’ve been dating Tom for two years. He has a good job and makes a good living. I found out I’m pregnant and we’re both excited about having a baby. Here’s the problem. Tom proposed when he found out I was pregnant. I thought […]

Should I Take In My Grandson, and Lose My Fiance?

Debra writes: I recently became engaged to John. We’re both in our early 60s and were looking forward to some stable time together after having been married several times (me twice, John 3 times). My daughter, Joanna, a single mom, has an opioid addiction and is about to lose her son, Andrew, who is 3 […]