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I Found Out My Partner Has Been Unfaithful–Now What?

What do you do if you find out your partner has been unfaithful? Listen to the latest “Couples Therapy in Seven Words” podcast episode. We (Dr. Bruce Chalmer and Judy Alexander) talk about infidelity: what it is (spoiler: we don’t try to define it!), how it happens, and what you can do to heal. And […]

Dr. Chalmer’s Favorite Recipe: Apple Honey Challah

Jathan and Heather, who ran a fabulous review of my book Reigniting the Spark on their website, often ask the authors they review for a favorite recipe to post. So I sent them one–actually, one that my wife Judy Alexander loves to make, and I love to eat! Check out their post, and enjoy!

Rave Reviews for Reigniting the Spark!

We’ve been getting some great reviews of Dr. Chalmer’s book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back. Here are some excerpts: “This book is concise at only 158 pages, but it is so well written that it feels like we are sitting in his office or laying on […]

Empowered Healing: An Integrated Approach to Trauma Recovery and Violence Prevention – Guest Post

by Dr. Christine DiBlasio I remember the first time that I had to give a professional public presentation, many years ago.  I lost a lot of sleep beforehand, and spent a great deal of time preparing and practicing.   Of course, after I finished the presentation, I decided to research how to actually give an effective […]

Check Out Our New Podcast!

We’ve launched a new podcast! It’s called Couples Therapy in Seven Words. I’ve teamed up with my wife, educator Judy Alexander, to tell you what you need to know about relationships, and answer your questions. In the first episode, Judy and I introduce the seven-word formula, talk about how couples’ needs for stability and intimacy […]

Check Out Shelagh Connor Shapiro’s Inteview With Dr. Chalmer!

Shelagh Connor Shapiro’s wonderful podcast Write the Book features an interview with Dr. Chalmer this week about his new book, Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back. Listen to the podcast here, and find out more about the book here. And let us know what you think!

Tips for Taking Your Relationship to the Next Level When You’re Stuck at Home – Guest Post

Thanks to Julie Morris for this post! If you and your significant other are experiencing a new normal, here’s the good news: it can turn out to be a great thing. Yes, making adjustments and getting used to major changes in your routine is challenging. But by taking steps together, you can learn to thrive […]

Book Launch Party – You’re Invited! 3/30/20 at 8:00 PM on Facebook Live

We’re having a party to celebrate the publication of Dr. Chalmer’s new book, Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Couples Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back. And you’re invited! It’s on Monday, March 30, at 8:00 PM on Facebook Live. Here’s the event link. Join us! I’ll do some short readings, we’ll do some […]

I’ve stopped drinking. Should I go to a New Year’s party with my husband’s hard-drinking college friends?

Lexi writes: I’m 26 years old, married for two years to a wonderful man. We’ve been invited to a New Year’s Party with his old gang of college friends. Most of us are coming in from different states. I’ve come to love his friends like brothers and sisters, but they are a pretty partying bunch, […]

My fiancée uses Santa Claus to bribe her child. How can I get her to see that she’s doing it wrong?

“Conflicted” writes: I’m a 48-year-old man and my fiancée is 42. She has an 8-year-old son. I have two teenage sons who are with me about half the time. My fiancée and I have been together for two years, living together for six months, so this is our first Christmas living together. With the holidays […]

My Boyfriend is Overwhelmed with Parenting. Is this a Deal-Breaker?

Traci writes: Greetings Dr. Chalmer, This morning, as I lay in bed, dreading the day (or weekend) ahead of me, I decided to google “help with a troubled relationship” and your YouTube channel came up.  I made some coffee, grabbed a journal and pen and listened to all your videos and took some notes! Thank […]