Books by Dr. Chalmer

Reigniting the Spark: How Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back

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Reigniting the Spark by Dr. Bruce Chalmer

“Reading this book is like breathing fresh Vermont air-–refreshing, inspiring, down-to-earth, and filled with grounded wisdom that emerges from decades of practice as a therapist with hundreds of couples. Dr. Chalmer gives a message of hope infused with principles and skills for long-term relationships to survive and thrive in the 21st century…I am especially inspired by his willingness to bring spiritual lives—religious and nonreligious–into the conversation, exploring with couples what matters most to each of them, while dealing with life’s inevitable uncertainties and struggles.”

Peggy Sax, Ph.D., Psychologist, Executive Director of Re-Authoring Teaching

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“I learned so much from this book that I can use in counseling couples, a significant part of my work as a rabbi.  Far from being simplistic or reductionist, this book brings a complex and multi-faceted approach to how choice, kindness, and faith can help heal relationships and bring greater meaning and vitality to life.   Dr. Chalmer is refreshing in his focus on character, the habits of kindness, and the disciplines of stability, rather than focusing solely on feelings as so many other books have.  Whether you’re a believer or agnostic, this book will help clinicians and clients alike consider deeply how faith, something so often overlooked in session, can be effectively integrated into an effective approach to healing relationships.”

Rabbi David Edleson, D.Div., Temple Sinai, South Burlington, Vermont

“In Reigniting the Spark, Bruce Chalmer offers a fresh, straightforward, and accessible understanding of how people in relationships—or those wishing to help them—can strengthen and light up those relationships. His seven-word formula, “Be kind, don’t panic, and have faith,” is neither dumbed-down nor a shortcut, but captures the essence of the work—and the opening up—that must be done to build or rebuild a relationship that thrives. And in particular, the final two words of that formula are a crucial part of what it takes. Dr. Chalmer does a wonderful job of explaining what faith is not, and then proceeds to show how faith provides what might be called a living posture toward the future, even amid the complicated realities in which we all live. As the author of the Letter to the Hebrews, from my own tradition, puts it: “faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen.” Turning the corner into the future opens up great possibility for any relationship, and this book will be fundamentally helpful for anyone seeking to “reignite the spark.”

Rev. Michael Brown, Retired Pastor Emeritus, Presbyterian Church (USA), Fellow, American Association of Pastoral Counselors (Retired)