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Praise for
It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong

Whether you are a client or a clinician, Dr. Bruce Chalmer’s latest book, “It’s Not About Communication!” offers spectacular insight into the often bumpy landscape of couples therapy. Dr. Chalmer gently guides the reader through many of the faulty assumptions and fixed theoretical understandings that often result in unsatisfactory experiences in therapy. Instead, in a voice that is both warm and clear, Dr. Chalmer invites the reader to consider the effects of believing in the wisdom of our clients and how this fosters a sense of hope and collaboration.
Jane Kast, MA
Psychologist, Individual and Couples Therapist
Dr. Bruce Chalmer’s book It’s Not About Communication! takes the reader “behind the curtain” of the whole couples therapy process. He demystifies the often mysterious and unknown experience of therapy so that couples know what to expect as soon as they walk through the door. Compassionate and informative, along with using a bit of humor, Dr. Chalmer shares his wealth of knowledge that comes from years of treating couples. I recommend this book to both therapists and couples alike who are looking for a roadmap of the couples therapy process.
Dr. Alyson Nerenberg
Dr. Alyson Nerenberg
Author of "No Perfect Love- Shattering the Illusion of Flawless Relationships"
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Reigniting the Spark: How Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back

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Praise for
Reigniting the Spark: How Stable Couples Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back

“Reading this book is like breathing fresh Vermont air-–refreshing, inspiring, down-to-earth, and filled with grounded wisdom that emerges from decades of practice as a therapist with hundreds of couples. “
Peggy Sax Ph.D
Peggy Sax, Ph.D
Psychologist, Executive Director of Re-Authoring Teaching
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“This book is concise at only 158 pages, but it is so well written that it feels like we are sitting in his office or laying on his couch, talking about what we want and asking how we can get there.”

Amazon Review

"Happily married for 13 years, I wasn't sure what this book would offer to me and my spouse. As it turns out, quite a bit! I came to realize how easy it is to fall into complacency and "relationship laziness" to avoid conflict, and how that can lead to stagnation. Through the examples of many couples he has counseled, Dr. Chalmer explores constructive methods of resolving disagreements and enhancing communication. This book is not just for people in troubled situations, but for anyone who is seeking a higher level of satisfaction with their partner."


"I was hooked on this book from the very first sample I read of it....I appreciated that [Dr. Chalmer] doesn’t shy away from difficult topics like sex, trauma, and anxiety in relationships and that he acknowledges the difficulties those situations present in maintaining relationships. I’ve even recommended this book to someone for precisely that reason....The writing was easy and conversational, yet absolutely conveyed his thoughts and authority on the subject matter. It was really an enjoyable read....I really appreciated this book and am even implementing a few things into my own marriage. I give Reigniting the Spark five stars."


"Whatever the state of one's relationship, they can benefit from this entertaining, episodic discussion. Dr. Chalmer's emphasis on kindness and lack of pop psychology draw the reader in as if they were reading a novel."

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