Check Out Our New Podcast!

We’ve launched a new podcast! It’s called Couples Therapy in Seven Words. I’ve teamed up with my wife, educator Judy Alexander, to tell you what you need to know about relationships, and answer your questions. In the first episode, Judy and I introduce the seven-word formula, talk about how couples’ needs for stability and intimacy […]

Tips for Taking Your Relationship to the Next Level When You’re Stuck at Home – Guest Post

Thanks to Julie Morris for this post! If you and your significant other are experiencing a new normal, here’s the good news: it can turn out to be a great thing. Yes, making adjustments and getting used to major changes in your routine is challenging. But by taking steps together, you can learn to thrive […]

Book Launch Party – You’re Invited! 3/30/20 at 8:00 PM on Facebook Live

We’re having a party to celebrate the publication of Dr. Chalmer’s new book, Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Couples Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back. And you’re invited! It’s on Monday, March 30, at 8:00 PM on Facebook Live. Here’s the event link. Join us! I’ll do some short readings, we’ll do some […]

I’ve stopped drinking. Should I go to a New Year’s party with my husband’s hard-drinking college friends?

Lexi writes: I’m 26 years old, married for two years to a wonderful man. We’ve been invited to a New Year’s Party with his old gang of college friends. Most of us are coming in from different states. I’ve come to love his friends like brothers and sisters, but they are a pretty partying bunch, […]

My Boyfriend is Overwhelmed with Parenting. Is this a Deal-Breaker?

Traci writes: Greetings Dr. Chalmer, This morning, as I lay in bed, dreading the day (or weekend) ahead of me, I decided to google “help with a troubled relationship” and your YouTube channel came up.  I made some coffee, grabbed a journal and pen and listened to all your videos and took some notes! Thank […]

My Husband Lost His Job and We Had to Move. How Do I Stop Being Angry?

A418 writes: My husband and I have been through stressful life changes. He lost his job after 19 years and we had to move away for him to find work.  I’m still having issues with being angry at him and he feels terrible about everything that’s happened  How do we get past this? We both […]

I’m Pregnant and Engaged, But Now I Have Doubts About Both

Terri writes: I’m a 26 year old woman in graduate school. I’ve been dating Tom for two years. He has a good job and makes a good living. I found out I’m pregnant and we’re both excited about having a baby. Here’s the problem. Tom proposed when he found out I was pregnant. I thought […]

Should I Take In My Grandson, and Lose My Fiance?

Debra writes: I recently became engaged to John. We’re both in our early 60s and were looking forward to some stable time together after having been married several times (me twice, John 3 times). My daughter, Joanna, a single mom, has an opioid addiction and is about to lose her son, Andrew, who is 3 […]