I Can’t Stand My Husband’s Family. What Do I Do About Thanksgiving?

The holidays are supposed to be times of family togetherness and joy. But what if they aren’t? And what happens to a couple when one person’s pain becomes the other’s impossible dilemma? Check out our “Couples Therapy in Seven Words” podcast, as we handle a listener question that raises this problem. Tell us what you […]

My Partner‘s Sexual Demands are Driving Me Nuts!

What happens when your partner wants way more sex than you do? Or way less? In this Couples Therapy in Seven Words podcast episode, Judy and I talk about the death spiral that can happen in a relationship–but also about opportunities for grace, intimacy, and erotic connection, at any age. What do you think?

Five Ridiculous Rules for Communicating with Your Partner

Rules for communication! Everyone wants rules for communication! In our Couples Therapy in Seven Words podcast, we talk about five popular, common-sense rules–all of them ridiculous.  What do you think?

I Watch Porn. Do I Need to Tell My Partner?

In this episode of our podcast, “Couples Therapy in Seven Words,” we’re responding to a provocative question posed by a letter to Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus: If you watch porn, do you have to tell your partner about it? What are the pros and cons? Is porn okay at all, and if it is, how […]

Communication, Sex, Intimacy — We’re Live!

We’re live! (Well, we taped before a live audience!) Check out our discussion of communication (it’s still not about communication!), sex, intimacy, and other topics, with provocative and personal questions from our audience. Thanks to Temple Sinai in South Burlington, Vermont for hosting this event.

Trouble in Paradise: An Interview with Adam and Eve

He’s always blaming her for everything. She’s tired of it. Can they work out their troubles? Listen to our Couples Therapy in Seven Words podcast episode as we interview Adam and Eve and try (with varying degrees of success) to help them! Send in your questions: email us at bruce@brucechalmer.com, or just visit brucechalmer.com. We’d love to […]

I’ve stopped drinking. Should I go to a New Year’s party with my husband’s hard-drinking college friends?

Lexi writes: I’m 26 years old, married for two years to a wonderful man. We’ve been invited to a New Year’s Party with his old gang of college friends. Most of us are coming in from different states. I’ve come to love his friends like brothers and sisters, but they are a pretty partying bunch, […]

My fiancée uses Santa Claus to bribe her child. How can I get her to see that she’s doing it wrong?

“Conflicted” writes: I’m a 48-year-old man and my fiancée is 42. She has an 8-year-old son. I have two teenage sons who are with me about half the time. My fiancée and I have been together for two years, living together for six months, so this is our first Christmas living together. With the holidays […]

My Husband Lost His Job and We Had to Move. How Do I Stop Being Angry?

A418 writes: My husband and I have been through stressful life changes. He lost his job after 19 years and we had to move away for him to find work.  I’m still having issues with being angry at him and he feels terrible about everything that’s happened  How do we get past this? We both […]