Check Out Our New Podcast!

We’ve launched a new podcast! It’s called Couples Therapy in Seven Words. I’ve teamed up with my wife, educator Judy Alexander, to tell you what you need to know about relationships, and answer your questions. In the first episode, Judy and I introduce the seven-word formula, talk about how couples’ needs for stability and intimacy […]

Check Out Shelagh Connor Shapiro’s Inteview With Dr. Chalmer!

Shelagh Connor Shapiro’s wonderful podcast Write the Book features an interview with Dr. Chalmer this week about his new book, Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back. Listen to the podcast here, and find out more about the book here. And let us know what you think!

Tips for Taking Your Relationship to the Next Level When You’re Stuck at Home – Guest Post

Thanks to Julie Morris for this post! If you and your significant other are experiencing a new normal, here’s the good news: it can turn out to be a great thing. Yes, making adjustments and getting used to major changes in your routine is challenging. But by taking steps together, you can learn to thrive […]

Book Launch Party – You’re Invited! 3/30/20 at 8:00 PM on Facebook Live

We’re having a party to celebrate the publication of Dr. Chalmer’s new book, Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Couples Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back. And you’re invited! It’s on Monday, March 30, at 8:00 PM on Facebook Live. Here’s the event link. Join us! I’ll do some short readings, we’ll do some […]

I’ve stopped drinking. Should I go to a New Year’s party with my husband’s hard-drinking college friends?

Lexi writes: I’m 26 years old, married for two years to a wonderful man. We’ve been invited to a New Year’s Party with his old gang of college friends. Most of us are coming in from different states. I’ve come to love his friends like brothers and sisters, but they are a pretty partying bunch, […]

My fiancée uses Santa Claus to bribe her child. How can I get her to see that she’s doing it wrong?

“Conflicted” writes: I’m a 48-year-old man and my fiancée is 42. She has an 8-year-old son. I have two teenage sons who are with me about half the time. My fiancée and I have been together for two years, living together for six months, so this is our first Christmas living together. With the holidays […]

My Boyfriend is Overwhelmed with Parenting. Is this a Deal-Breaker?

Traci writes: Greetings Dr. Chalmer, This morning, as I lay in bed, dreading the day (or weekend) ahead of me, I decided to google “help with a troubled relationship” and your YouTube channel came up.  I made some coffee, grabbed a journal and pen and listened to all your videos and took some notes! Thank […]

My Husband Lost His Job and We Had to Move. How Do I Stop Being Angry?

A418 writes: My husband and I have been through stressful life changes. He lost his job after 19 years and we had to move away for him to find work.  I’m still having issues with being angry at him and he feels terrible about everything that’s happened  How do we get past this? We both […]