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Five Ridiculous Rules for Communicating with Your Partner

Rules for communication! Everyone wants rules for communication! In our Couples Therapy in Seven Words podcast, we talk about five popular, common-sense rules–all of them ridiculous.  What do you think?

I Watch Porn. Do I Need to Tell My Partner?

In this episode of our podcast, “Couples Therapy in Seven Words,” we’re responding to a provocative question posed by a letter to Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus: If you watch porn, do you have to tell your partner about it? What are the pros and cons? Is porn okay at all, and if it is, how […]

Communication, Sex, Intimacy — We’re Live!

We’re live! (Well, we taped before a live audience!) Check out our discussion of communication (it’s still not about communication!), sex, intimacy, and other topics, with provocative and personal questions from our audience. Thanks to Temple Sinai in South Burlington, Vermont for hosting this event.

Live Taping of “Couples Therapy in Seven Words”–Come Be Part of It!

You’re Invited to a live taping of the  “Couples Therapy in Seven Words” podcast! When: Sunday, August 15, 2021 from 1:00 – 2:30 pm Where: Temple Sinai, 500 Swift St. South Burlington VT Admission is free (but please respond–see below) Couples therapist Dr. Bruce Chalmer and his wife and co-host Judy Alexander are having their […]

Sex Points: An Interview with Author and Sex Therapist Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus

Did you know that sexual desire and sexual arousal aren’t the same–that you can be capable of arousal but have little desire, or have a lot of desire but experience little arousal? In our Couples Therapy in Seven Words video podcast, we have a lively, engaging interview with the Orthodox Sex Guru and Queen of […]

Humor, Improv, and Couples Therapy: An Interview with Izzy Gesell

What’s funny got to do with couples therapy? In our Couples Therapy in Seven Words podcast we talk to Izzy Gesell, a funny man who teaches us how to let ourselves be vulnerable enough to risk being foolish–and along the way, opens our hearts. We play an improv game to illustrate that takes a rather […]

I Had an Affair. Am I a Total Screw-Up?

If you had an affair, are you a total screw-up? Is there hope for healing? What if your partner cheated? Spoiler alert: Healing is possible–but it’s not easy. We talk about cheating, guilt, apologies, and the possibility that a couple can survive an affair. And we handle a listener question from someone who’s in the […]

How Do You Go From “Just Having Sex” to “Making Love?” An Interview with Susan Bratton

Our latest “Couples Therapy in Seven Words” podcast episode is delightful conversation with Susan Bratton, who teaches couples how to go from just having sex to making love. Susan tells us about the Sexual Soulmate Pact, how to get the juices flowing even when desire has been long gone, and how both women and men […]

It’s Not About Communication!

Okay, let’s get snarky. Everybody comes in to couples therapy saying, “We need to communicate better.” No you don’t! In this episode of our “Couples Therapy in Seven Words” podcast, Judy and I talk about why it’s not about how you talk. And then we handle a listener question. Let us know what you think!

What Do You Mean, “Faith is What Heals People?”

Wait a minute. Our seven-word formula says, “Be kind, don’t panic, and have faith.” And I (Bruce) go around claiming that it’s the faith part that heals people. So what does that mean? In this episode of our Couples Therapy in Seven Words podcast, we pick up on some reviewer comments, and some questions from […]

Trouble in Paradise: An Interview with Adam and Eve

He’s always blaming her for everything. She’s tired of it. Can they work out their troubles? Listen to our Couples Therapy in Seven Words podcast episode as we interview Adam and Eve and try (with varying degrees of success) to help them! Send in your questions: email us at bruce@brucechalmer.com, or just visit brucechalmer.com. We’d love to […]