Debra writes: I recently became engaged to John. We’re both in our early 60s and were looking forward to some stable time together after having been married several times (me twice, John 3 times). My daughter, Joanna, a single mom, has an opioid addiction and is about to lose her son, Andrew, who is 3 […]
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Where Should I Move For Retirement?
Beth writes: I am trying to figure out whether a retirement in either New England or Florida is materializing. One or the other would be excellent investments but I seem to have trouble deciding. I have been considering retiring in Europe but am not entirely sure I could adjust to living there. Any suggestions for […]
Why Don’t People Pay What They Owe?
Liz writes: Right now I am trying to figure out what to do about moving. I was promised a very large sum of money for contract work that I have successfully finished. I have demanded payment but even though this was for a well publicized request for extensive and sometimes dangerous research, I still haven’t […]
How Do I Find A Partner?
Marty writes: Dear Dr. Chalmer, I have just watched your videos about sex, good sex and sacred sex. I really learned so much from these two videos and it was very informative as well as interesting and provocative. It made me ask myself questions such as how do I go from sex to good sex […]
My Fiancee Freaked When I Asked Her to Watch Porn With Me
Troy writes: I’ve been dating ‘Lois’ for three years. We’re both in our late 50s and neither of us has children who live at home. Once in a while I like to watch porn (the pretty mild stuff) and I’ve asked Lois if she would like to watch some with me. She freaked out and […]
Should We Move In Together?
Linda Z writes: Another issue just came to mind about relationships and shared space. Suppose I am moving to a house where a deposit is needed and then the purchase closes at the end of July, and he has agreed to see that the funds get to the closing. I am willing to purchase it […]
I Am Suffering From Compassion Fatigue
Karen writes: I am suffering from serious compassion fatigue. I have a therapist and we are talking about this. But I thought maybe you would have some insight. As a Social Worker I deal with a minimum of 5-7 (often more) problems in a day. I don’t mind helping people, but the issue I am […]
My Husband Complains About My Cleaning
Shirley writes: My husband is driving me crazy. He complains about the way I clean up. It’s never good enough. He says he has to clean up after I clean. I tell him if he’s not happy, why doesn’t he just do it himself? But he refuses and says I need to learn to clean […]